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  • Ancient Wisdom

Thought by Epictetus: “Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of things” — a sentence written nearly two thousand years ago that most people only discover they’ve been living in reverse
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  • Inner Life

For decades psychologists measured the good life two ways, as happiness and as meaning, and then kept meeting people who wouldn’t trade their most disorienting years, the move that failed, the year everything changed — for all the calm in the world
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  • Relationships

The idea that your partner has one primary love language, and that learning to speak it is the secret to a happy relationship, is something most couples now take for granted; when researchers held it up to the evidence, they found people want all the ways of being loved at once, and that matching the quiz to your partner barely predicts how close the two of you actually feel
  • Inner Life

For years people were told there’s a magic ratio of good feelings to bad, right around three to one, that separates the people who flourish from the ones who quietly languish, and then a physicist and two colleagues checked the equation behind it and found the famous number had been borrowed from a decades-old model of heat rising through a fluid
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  • Relationships

People who see their partner more kindly than the plain facts would justify usually aren’t fooling themselves — in the couples researchers followed for a year, the ones who saw each other most generously stayed together more often, fought less, and slowly grew into the person their partner already saw
  • Relationships

The idea that a couple’s love burns hotter when their families disapprove has been repeated for fifty years, but when researchers actually followed couples, the disapproval didn’t fuel the romance, it more often predicted the slow thinning of it
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Ancient Wisdom

  • Ancient Wisdom

Thought by Epictetus: “Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of things” — a sentence written nearly two thousand years ago that most people only discover they’ve been living in reverse
  • Ancient Wisdom

What you keep telling yourself may quietly become the way your body learns to feel
  • Ancient Wisdom, Inner Life

I’m finally reading Adam Phillips’ Missing Out. This quote, which is in the first few pages, hits hard because it names the strange intimacy we have with the lives we never lived: “We share our lives with the people we have failed to be.”
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Inner Life

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  • Inner Life, Relationships

When researchers had people confide something painful to a friend sitting right beside them, the ones whose blood pressure climbed the highest weren’t leaning on someone difficult — they were turning to a friend they genuinely love and still, just slightly, hold their breath around
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  • Inner Life

We tend to think grief needs an explanation to heal, but bereavement researchers found the opposite — people who rushed to make meaning of a loss often recovered more slowly than those who let the pain remain unresolved
  • Inner Life, Relationships

The people who help us become who we want to be often aren’t just the ones who love us exactly as we are, but the ones who treat us, day after day, as the person we’re quietly trying to become — until one afternoon we catch ourselves already doing the thing we thought we’d never manage
  • Inner Life

The advice to let the anger out goes back more than a century — but when researchers gave angry people a punching bag, the ones told to picture the person who had enraged them walked away angrier than the people who just sat quietly for two minutes, doing nothing at all
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  • Inner Life

We Thought We Were Free. Turns Out We’re Just Comfortable.
  • Inner Life

The unbearable weight of being understood by few people, including yourself
  • Inner Life

I mastered the 6 morning habits of highly successful people. They left me completely empty
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Relationships

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  • Relationships

For a while we assumed the slow cooling of a long marriage was just the price of time — until researchers found that couples who spent about seven minutes, three times a year, describing their worst fight the way a neutral outsider might see it simply stopped sliding apart
Two wooden Adirondack chairs facing a small table on gravel, with green hills behind
  • Inner Life, Relationships

When researchers had people confide something painful to a friend sitting right beside them, the ones whose blood pressure climbed the highest weren’t leaning on someone difficult — they were turning to a friend they genuinely love and still, just slightly, hold their breath around
  • Inner Life, Relationships

The people who help us become who we want to be often aren’t just the ones who love us exactly as we are, but the ones who treat us, day after day, as the person we’re quietly trying to become — until one afternoon we catch ourselves already doing the thing we thought we’d never manage
Two people holding hands in front of a pale blue wall
  • Relationships

The idea that your partner has one primary love language, and that learning to speak it is the secret to a happy relationship, is something most couples now take for granted; when researchers held it up to the evidence, they found people want all the ways of being loved at once, and that matching the quiz to your partner barely predicts how close the two of you actually feel
Two people in warm coats holding hands on a sunlit street, their joined shadow stretching across the pavement
  • Relationships

People who see their partner more kindly than the plain facts would justify usually aren’t fooling themselves — in the couples researchers followed for a year, the ones who saw each other most generously stayed together more often, fought less, and slowly grew into the person their partner already saw
  • Relationships

The idea that a couple’s love burns hotter when their families disapprove has been repeated for fifty years, but when researchers actually followed couples, the disapproval didn’t fuel the romance, it more often predicted the slow thinning of it
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Green Horizons

  • Green Horizons, Places of Power

The air you breathe has likely passed through forests, oceans, animals, cities, fires, storms, and other people before reaching you, which means every breath is less private than it feels and more like borrowing from the whole planet
  • Green Horizons

The beauty industry still can’t define “clean” — and most of us have been trusting the label anyway
  • Green Horizons

Fashion that doesn’t cost the world: how to dress without the damage
  • Green Horizons

Living in dialogue with the natural world, not just passing through it
  • Green Horizons

What changes when you stop treating nature as scenery
  • Green Horizons

30 beluga whales face euthanasia after Canadian marine park shuts down—and time is running out
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Creative Practice

  • Creative Practice

Goal setting with Ikigai: a values worksheet for finding what matters
  • Creative Practice

First 90 days in a new job: a bullet journal layout and planning worksheet
  • Creative Practice

Project management in your bullet journal: a planning template for analogue tracking
  • Creative Practice

Rainbow planner ideas for your bullet journal: colour as a way of telling time
  • Creative Practice

49 Alice in Wonderland bullet journal spreads: pages that make room for something other than productivity
  • Creative Practice

Memory spreads for your bullet journal: the quiet practice of deciding what was worth keeping
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