For the inner work that doesn’t shout. Emotional steadiness, self-trust, meaning, and the kinds of insights you only earn by living long enough to notice what actually matters.
One of the quietly punishing facts about being human is that we are very, very good at getting what we want and then immediately wanting the next thing. The apartment becomes the smaller apartment the moment a friend buys a bigger one. The job becomes the boring job the moment a peer gets promoted. The […]
Before this goes any further, the same disclaimer I made in a previous piece. I do not recommend using ChatGPT, or any AI chat, as a therapist. If you are feeling genuinely down, or struggling in a way that is interfering with your daily life, talk to a real professional. No AI can do the
I asked ChatGPT what my biggest blind spot probably is. It got a bit too personal. Read More »
Why does my husband’s tía abuela in Santiago watch the same Chilean drama from the late 1980s three or four times a year, every year, when streaming has put roughly the entire catalog of human filmmaking in her living room? She has tried newer things. She likes some of them. She still comes back, predictably,
Think about the person in your life who is somewhere in their seventies and just seems, for lack of a better word, fine. Not blissed-out, not perfectly healed, not the version of an older woman you would see on the cover of a wellness magazine. Just steady. The one who shows up to family lunches,
There’s a woman who lives in our building in Itaim who is somewhere on the older side of sixty. I see her two or three times a week, usually walking out the front door in unfussy clothes with a tote bag of books, on her way to a class or a lunch or a coffee
It was late. I’d opened the chat without a particular reason — tired, a little restless, not ready for the day to be over. Then I typed something I hadn’t said to anyone. Not to a close friend. Not to my therapist. Not even clearly to myself yet. It came out with a strange ease,
If you sit a hundred people down and ask, in an honest moment, whether the next promotion, the bigger car, the upgraded apartment, the cleaner-looking life on someone else’s feed is actually going to deliver a deeper version of happiness, almost everyone, with a small wince, will say no. Not really. We have read the
Most of what we chase isn’t what makes us happy. And we know it. Read More »
Walk into any pharmacy in São Paulo on a Saturday morning and you’ll see an entire aisle of women in their forties and fifties studying the back of a serum like it’s a tax form. I’ve done it too. We’ve been told for so long that the way to stay beautiful is to find the
At the Stanford Senior Care clinic, the geriatrician Silvia Tee tells her older patients something I keep thinking about. “With age, muscles can get weak very easily,” she said in early 2026, pointing out that just a few days of inactivity can trigger long-term mobility challenges. It’s the kind of sentence that pulls the soft
