We’ve all been there – feeling like we’re giving more than we’re getting in a relationship. It’s no fun, and sometimes, it’s more than just an imbalance; it can be a sign that our partner is taking advantage of us.
It’s a tough pill to swallow. But recognizing the signs is the first step towards reclaiming your worth and power in the relationship.
Are you ready to face the truth?
Let’s dive in.
1) They always put their needs first
Ever feel like you’re constantly bending over backward to meet your partner’s needs while yours take a backseat? Do they consistently prioritize their wants and needs over yours?
Look, we all have moments of selfishness – it’s human nature. And now and then, it’s perfectly okay for your partner to prioritize their needs.
But it shouldn’t always be a one-way street.
If you find yourself constantly making sacrifices while your partner does the taking, it might be time to reassess.
A healthy relationship involves a balance of give and take. You’re not there just to cater to their happiness. Your feelings matter, too.
2) They don’t respect your time
I once dated a girl who was always late. Not just five or ten minutes, but regularly an hour or more.
At first, I brushed it off, thinking she was just bad with time management. But as it continued, I realized it was more than that – it was a blatant disrespect for my time. It wasn’t the only issue, and needless to say, the relationship didn’t work out.
Anyway, ask yourself: does your partner constantly keep you waiting? Do they cancel plans at the last minute or fail to show up when you’ve set aside time for them?
We all run late sometimes, that’s life. But if your partner consistently disrespects your time, it might be a sign they’re taking advantage of your patience.
Time is one of the most precious things, if the most precious thing, we have. When someone continually wastes it without consideration, they’re sending a clear message: they don’t value yours.
This next one is controversial, but it definitely warrants a place on this list.
3) They take more than they give financially
Sure, relationships are not about keeping score. However, if you’re always digging into your wallet and your partner is more than comfortable letting you do so, it might be time to re-evaluate.
We all know that financial matters can be tricky in relationships, especially when one partner earns significantly more than the other. But even so, it’s crucial to find a balance that respects both partners’ economic realities without exploiting one’s generosity.
A partnership should be just that – a partnership, where both parties contribute according to their means.
If you feel like your partner is using you as a financial crutch without reciprocating in other meaningful ways, it might be time for a difficult conversation.
4) They only reach out when they need something
Ever noticed that your phone lights up with their name only when they need a favor, advice, or someone to vent to? Do they seem to disappear when everything’s going well but reappear the moment they need something?
It’s one thing to lean on your partner in times of need – that’s part of being in a relationship. But it’s another thing entirely if they only seem to reach out when they want something from you.
This kind of one-sided interaction can leave us feeling used and undervalued. It’s as if we’re a resource to be tapped into whenever it suits them rather than an equal partner in a loving relationship.
You deserve someone who values your presence and companionship, not just what you can do for them.
5) They rarely show appreciation for your efforts
You go out of your way to make them feel special, cater to their needs, and do things that make their life easier. But do they acknowledge and appreciate your efforts?
Appreciation is the currency of any healthy relationship. It’s what keeps the emotional bank account balanced and the relationship thriving.
If your partner seldom shows gratitude for all you do, it can leave you feeling unappreciated and taken advantage of.
Don’t settle for a partner who doesn’t value your worth and the efforts you put into the relationship.
6) They manipulate you into feeling guilty
Manipulation is a powerful tool in the hands of someone taking advantage of you.
Does your partner often make you feel guilty for things you shouldn’t feel responsible for? Do they play the victim and twist situations to make you feel like the bad guy?
Manipulative partners have a way of turning things around to make us feel guilty, even when we’ve done nothing wrong. This leaves us constantly apologizing and making amends while they get away scot-free.
As noted by Healthline, these guilt-tripping tactics are often used by manipulative individuals to maintain control in relationships. It’s a serious issue.
The trouble with this one, in particular, is that we are often blinded to our partners’ behaviors more than we would be with a friend or colleague. With partners, we don’t see the manipulation, or we see it, and we make excuses for them.
You shouldn’t let anyone, even a partner, manipulate you into feeling like you are always that bad guy.
7) They disrespect your boundaries
We all know that boundaries are a fundamental part of any healthy relationship. They’re like your personal property line, marking where your personal space begins and ends.
But does your partner respect these boundaries? Or do they constantly push them, making you feel uncomfortable or disrespected?
Maybe they pressure you into doing things you’re not comfortable with, or they don’t respect your need for personal space or alone time. Or perhaps they demand access to your devices and constantly check up on you.
Disrespecting boundaries is not just a sign of a lack of respect; it’s also a clear indication that your partner is taking advantage of your good nature.
Remember, you have every right to establish healthy boundaries in your relationship. When a partner doesn’t respect them, it’s time to reconsider whether they truly value and respect you.
The bottom line
Recognizing when you’re being taken advantage of in a relationship is a crucial step toward safeguarding your emotional well-being.
If you spot these behaviors persistently in your relationship, despite your attempts at communication and resolution, it might be time to confront some uncomfortable truths.
It’s okay to choose yourself sometimes.
Until next time.
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