12 signs you’re in a relationship with a man who truly values you

Being in a relationship is very challenging at times, and that’s why having a partner who genuinely values you makes it that much easier. 

He will listen carefully to what you have to say, offer constructive feedback, remember the little things, and cheer you on every step of the way.

Does that describe your man? Your life partner? 

But these are just some of the signs that he deeply appreciates you. Keep on reading to find out about all the signs that prove you’re in a relationship with a man who truly values you.

1) Instead of trying to change you, he appreciates you for who you are

Many partners quickly try changing the person they’re with to better suit their needs and wants. But is that really fair? Should we change our partners or simply accept and appreciate them for who they are?

If your partner isn’t trying to change you and instead treasures you just the way you are, that’s a great sign that they value and love you.

They’re not trying to mold you into something you are not. It’s not just that you two are a better fit for each other but also that your partner is a good and kind person who isn’t out there trying to control people.

2) He shows genuine interest in what you have to say

You know how some men don’t care about what their partner has to say to them? It’s not just a stereotype. It really happens.

On the other side, there are men who value their partners and not only hear their words but engage with them and respond thoughtfully. They simply value their partner’s thoughts and opinions.

Does that sound familiar to you? Does your man fall into this camp? 

3) Instead of criticizing, he offers constructive feedback

And what about criticizing vs. offering constructive feedback? A man who respects and values their partner isn’t looking to tear them down. 

He’s not going to point out your flaws or tell you to improve without any tact. He’s going to offer feedback with the intention of helping you become a better person and not simply point out your weaknesses. 

Feedback is not a one-way street, either. Your partner should be open to receiving constructive feedback, creating a dynamic where both of you contribute to each other’s personal development.

4) He cheers you on every step of the way

For me, my wife is my biggest supporter, and vice versa. I simply don’t see how our marriage could work in any other way.

If your partner cheers you on every step of the way, it’s a powerful sign that he genuinely values you, isn’t it?

He’s not supposed to be a passive observer but actively encourage you to pursue your goals and aspirations.

So, for example, if you’re picking up a new skill, he should be proud and even impressed by your determination to learn something new.

5) He considers your opinions and values your input

Okay, so we already know that the partner who appreciates you genuinely listens to what you have to say to them, right? 

He won’t scroll on their phone with one eye while you’re talking to him. But he also goes a step further and includes you in decisions ranging from big to small, from life choices to day-to-day matters.

He loves having open and honest discussions about personal matters, shared goals, or the relationship itself.

He also takes into account not only the content of your opinions but also the emotions behind them.

6) He makes an effort to spend quality time with you

I think we can all agree that some partners are just there. They’re just present in the relationship and don’t do much else or contribute in any valuable way.

On the other side, we have those who invest a lot of time and energy into nurturing the relationship or marriage.

They actively plan and look for opportunities to spend quality time with their partners. 

Whether it’s having deep conversations, going for walks, eating out in restaurants, or simply enjoying each other’s company, they focus on the richness of the experience.

Above all, a partner who truly values you is emotionally available and makes time for the relationship amidst life’s demands.

7) He remembers the little things

Okay, so some men listen carefully to what you have to say to them, but they can have a different problem – they won’t remember what you just told them. 

So, although they’re attentive on the surface, what’s the point of that if they won’t remember anything about the conversation?

That’s why remembering the little things in a relationship is a poignant sign that your partner genuinely values you.

He pays close attention to details about you – whether it’s your favorite snacks, the way you take your coffee or a specific scent you love. 

This attention to detail shows just how deeply aware and considerate they are.

8) He respects your boundaries and communicates openly about his own

Your partner should recognize and respect how important personal space and individual boundaries are, right?

I mean, everyone has their own needs for privacy and independence, even when in a relationship. There’s nothing controversial about that. 

Still, some partners have a different dynamic they’re trying to incorporate into the relationship. 

Either way, a considerate partner, one who values and respects you, doesn’t push or exceed the boundaries you set.

But here’s the thing: relationships evolve, and being open to adjusting boundaries when necessary shows a commitment to growth and development together.

9) He’s transparent and honest in your relationship

In some relationships, keeping secrets is normal. But not in one where a man truly values and respects you. 

There are no hidden motives or secret agendas there. Your partner is honest about his intentions, creating a transparent and trustworthy atmosphere. 

What he says always aligns with your actions. There’s a simple consistency between their words and deeds, reinforcing the sincerity of the relationship.

10) He takes responsibility for his mistakes

And then we have another pain point for many partners: taking responsibility for their mistakes. 

There’s just something about admitting you’re wrong that makes it so hard for them. They just can’t admit they can make mistakes like everyone else.

And that’s where the man who truly values you shines. He’s comfortable admitting when he’s done something wrong and promptly apologizes if needed and amends his mistakes and errors. 

He’s not trying to make you or someone else the scapegoat but looks inward first. I mean, admittedly, even I don’t do that sometimes and think about blaming circumstances before I check myself and admit that it was me. 

I guess we want to look strong and infallible in front of our partners and don’t like when anything spoils that image of us. 

11) He shows affection regularly

Look, my wife and I have been together for the past 15 years. I’m not going to lie to you that we’re affectionate AF, right? 

It’s something we have to work on, especially since our 3-year-old demands so much attention. 

Am I fooling myself that we’ll be more affectionate once he starts going into preschool and we have more time for ourselves as we both work from home, or has that ship sailed? 

I guess you’ll have to keep reading my articles to find out.

But all joking aside, affection is sometimes a one-way street where one person needs more affection than the other, and that can be a problem. 

So, if your partner shows affection regularly and you’re there to give it back, you’re in a good place, so don’t let it be spoiled by everyday life. 

12) Instead of trying to control you, he trusts you

What is it about people trying to control others, and is there a power struggle going on in every relationship. 

Well, not in every relationship, but I’m pretty sure that in many, one partner is trying to control the other, at least to some degree. 

It doesn’t have to be menacing, too. For example, my wife is on my back about adopting healthier lifestyle choices, such as regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and stress management. 

It’s a form of control, right? I know it’s good for me and I appreciate it, but on some level, I don’t have a choice about it either anymore.