BY TINA FEY
Many people-pleasers often find themselves overwhelmed by constantly adding tasks to their already busy schedules because they can't say 'no,' but remember, prioritizing your needs by saying 'no' is not selfish, it's human.
I used to constantly say 'yes' to endless requests, realizing I became the 'go-to' person not because I was the only capable one, but because I couldn't say 'no,' highlighting the importance of setting boundaries for your well-being.
For people-pleasers, prioritizing self-care can be challenging due to guilt, but it's essential for your well-being, as you can't be there for others if you're running on empty, highlighting the need to overcome the guilt and understand the importance of self-care.
If your self-worth depends on others' approval and you equate your value to what you can do for others, it's a sign of people-pleasing, but remember, your worth isn't defined by favors or tasks, it's about who you are, and saying 'no' can demonstrate self-respect and valuing your time.
Constantly saying 'yes' and feeling resentment is a sign of overextension, indicating it's time to reevaluate your commitments and consider saying 'no' when necessary for your well-being and values.
As a people-pleaser, you may suppress your true feelings to avoid conflict, but it's important to remember that your feelings and opinions are valid, and it's okay to express them, even if they differ from others', along with the importance of saying 'no' when needed.
A calendar filled with commitments to others at the expense of personal time and self-care is a clear indicator of people-pleasing, emphasizing the importance of setting aside time for relaxation and self-love.
Constantly saying 'yes' and feeling unappreciated can lead to resentment, but setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care can help maintain healthy relationships and self-worth, highlighting the importance of balance between helping others and caring for oneself.