Running away from problems is a habit some people can’t seem to shake. It’s not the best approach, but it’s their go-to move.
Interestingly, these individuals often share similar personality traits. As someone who’s seen this pattern repeatedly, I’ve noticed 9 key characteristics that stand out.
In this article, we’ll delve into these traits and discuss why they might be contributing to such a defensive behavior. Let’s explore.
1) Avoidance
First on the list is a trait that’s no surprise – avoidance.
Folks who are prone to running from their problems usually have avoidance deeply ingrained in their nature. It’s their primary defense mechanism and their default mode of operation.
They often avoid difficult conversations, uncomfortable emotions, and challenging decisions. It’s not that they don’t recognize the problem; they just prefer to stay away from it.
Interestingly, this trait isn’t limited to the big issues. Even the minor, everyday problems are met with this attitude. Their motto? “If I don’t confront it, it doesn’t exist.”
However, as we all know, ignoring a problem doesn’t make it disappear. So while this strategy may provide temporary relief, it often leads to more significant problems down the line.
2) Procrastination
This one, I can speak about from personal experience.
Back in college, I had a friend who was a textbook example of a serial problem-runner. Let’s call him Jake. Jake was smart, charismatic, and full of potential. But Jake had a procrastination problem.
He would put off assignments until the last minute, delay making important decisions, and postpone dealing with any problems that came his way. His motto was “I’ll deal with it later.” But later almost never came.
When I confronted him about it, his response was always “I work better under pressure.” But the truth was, he was just avoiding dealing with the issue at hand.
Procrastination was his escape route from any discomfort or challenge confronting him. He believed that by postponing the problem, he could somehow evade it. But as we all know, that’s not how things work.
3) Risk aversion
These individuals tend to shy away from any situation that carries uncertainty or the possibility of failure.
In one study, researchers found that risk-averse individuals were significantly less likely to engage in entrepreneurial activities because of the uncertainty and potential for failure associated with starting a new business.
It’s not surprising that this trait plays a big role in running from problems. After all, confronting a problem often involves taking risks and facing uncertainty. For those who are risk-averse, it’s much more comfortable to sidestep the issue and stick to the safer path.
4) Fear of failure
This fear can be so paralyzing that it prevents individuals from taking action, even when they recognize that action is necessary.
It’s a vicious cycle. The fear of failing keeps them from addressing the problem, which in turn only exacerbates the issue, leading to more fear. The result? They keep running, hoping somehow the problem will resolve itself.
This fear often stems from a lack of self-confidence or past experiences where they’ve faced criticism or ridicule. Instead of viewing failure as a learning opportunity, they see it as a reflection of their worth.
Overcoming this fear is crucial. It’s only when we face our problems head-on, risking failure, that we can truly grow and move forward. As the saying goes, “The only real failure is the failure to try.”
5) Low frustration tolerance
This essentially means that they find it hard to tolerate distressing feelings or situations.
They have a low threshold for discomfort and are quick to feel overwhelmed by circumstances that many would consider just a part of life. Even minor setbacks or obstacles can feel insurmountable to them.
This sensitivity to discomfort often drives them to seek immediate relief, usually in the form of avoidance or escape. Instead of tackling the problem head-on, they run from it to avoid the temporary discomfort it brings.
In the long run, this approach often leads to more distress and frustration. The key is learning to tolerate discomfort in the short term for long-term gain.
6) Fear of confrontation
It’s not just about fearing arguments or disagreements; it’s about fearing the discomfort and potential conflict that comes with standing up for oneself or addressing a difficult situation.
People who run from their problems often fear confrontation because they dread the emotional fallout. They worry about damaging relationships, causing upset, or being seen as the bad guy.
This fear can be paralyzing, keeping them stuck in situations they’re unhappy with, simply because they’re too afraid to address the issue. They may put others’ needs and feelings above their own, to their detriment.
It’s important to remember that confrontation isn’t about being aggressive or combative. It’s about addressing problems honestly and assertively, with respect for all involved. Confronting problems head-on can lead to better understanding, stronger relationships, and personal growth. It takes courage, but it’s a step worth taking.
7) Overthinking
I’ve been guilty of this myself. It’s easy to get caught in a loop of endless “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios.
Overthinkers tend to analyze every aspect of a problem, often creating more issues than solutions. This constant analysis can lead to paralysis, where the fear of making the wrong choice prevents any choice from being made at all.
Instead of taking action to resolve a problem, overthinkers can find themselves stuck in a cycle of worry and doubt. This not only prevents problem-solving but also creates unnecessary stress and anxiety.
Learning to manage this tendency to overthink can be a game-changer. It’s about finding the balance between thoughtful consideration and decisive action. After all, not making a decision is often worse than making the wrong one.
8) Lack of responsibility
Instead of taking ownership for their actions or situations, they may blame others or circumstances beyond their control.
It’s easier to point the finger elsewhere than to accept responsibility and face the potential consequences. But this avoidance tactic only serves to perpetuate the issue at hand.
Running from problems and not accepting responsibility can create a cycle of blame and denial. But true growth comes from acknowledging our role in our problems and taking steps to make things right.
Taking responsibility can be tough, but it’s an essential step towards problem-solving and personal development. Accepting that we’re all imperfect, but we have the power to change and improve.
9) A tendency for negativity
Individuals with this trait often focus on the worst aspects of a situation, magnifying the problem rather than seeking solutions.
This negative outlook can make problems seem bigger and more insurmountable than they really are, further motivating the individual to avoid dealing with them.
However, it’s important to remember that our perspective greatly influences our reality. By shifting from a negative to a more positive, solution-focused mindset, we can better face our problems head-on and find effective ways to overcome them.
Ultimately: It’s about self-awareness
The complexities of human behavior are deeply entwined with our personal experiences, perspectives, and emotional makeup.
One crucial aspect to remember is the role of self-awareness in understanding and altering these behavioral patterns.
Self-awareness, the conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires, is the cornerstone of personal development. It’s the first step towards changing any behavior, including the tendency to run from problems.
For those who habitually avoid issues, becoming aware of these nine traits can be a game changer. By recognizing these patterns within themselves, they open the doorway to change.
Whether it’s taking small steps towards confrontation, challenging negative thinking, or learning to sit with discomfort, every effort counts.
Awareness is the first step on the path of transformation. The journey may not be easy, but it’s certainly worthwhile.
