Remember how your mom used to say, “Actions speak louder than words”?
Well, she was onto something.
Sometimes, people find it difficult to express their feelings verbally. They may not always say “I love you”, but that doesn’t mean they don’t cherish you. In fact, there are many ways in which they might be showing their affection for you—without uttering a single word.
Because here’s the deal.
There are everyday behaviors that can be more telling of someone’s true feelings than any words could ever be. These subtle signs can speak volumes about how much someone values and cherishes you.
If you’re wondering “How do I know if someone truly cherishes me?” then keep reading. We’re about to delve into seven behaviors to look out for – signs that someone treasures you, even if they never say “I love you”.
1) They listen to you
We all need someone who will truly listen, don’t we?
And no, I don’t mean just nodding along while you talk. I’m talking about genuine, deep listening. Someone who cherishes you will be fully present in your conversations. They’ll show interest in what you’re saying and respond in meaningful ways.
Why does this matter?
Because when someone truly listens, it means they value your thoughts and feelings. They want to understand you better, and they’re willing to devote their time and attention to do so.
So next time, pay attention to how they listen. It may be one of the most significant indicators that they hold you dear—even if they never say “I love you”.
2) They remember the little things
Isn’t it wonderful when someone remembers those tiny details about you?
Let me share a personal story.
I have this friend, let’s call her Lisa. Now, Lisa and I don’t see each other often, maybe once or twice a year. But every time we meet, she surprises me with how much she remembers from our previous conversations.
For example, last year, I mentioned in passing that I had started to learn Italian, just as a hobby. Fast forward to our annual catch-up a few months ago, and she had bought me an Italian recipe book. She remembered not only that I was learning the language but also my love for cooking.
Why does this mean so much?
Because remembering the little things shows that someone doesn’t just hear you—they listen. They cherish your shared moments and hold them close. They might not always say “I love you”, but their actions speak volumes.
3) They show up when you need them
It’s 3 am, and you’re going through a tough time.
You need someone to talk to, someone to just be there with you. And without any hesitation, they are there. They don’t ask why. They don’t complain about the hour. They just show up.
In my book, there’s no clearer sign that someone cherishes you.
Because let’s face it—life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. We all face those dark, gloomy days when we feel like we’re alone in the world. But if you have someone who stands by your side during those times, count yourself lucky.
In these moments, their presence is more comforting than any words could ever be. It’s their way of saying, “I’m here for you,” without really saying it. And isn’t that what cherishing someone is all about?
So, if they’re there for you when you need them most—even when it’s inconvenient for them—know that it’s because they truly cherish you.
4) They respect your boundaries
We all have our boundaries, don’t we?
And it’s critical that these boundaries are respected.
You see, when someone cherishes you, they understand this. They won’t push you to do something you’re uncomfortable with or invade your personal space. Instead, they’ll respect your limits and make sure you feel safe and comfortable.
Why is this so important?
Because respect is a fundamental part of any relationship. It shows that they value you as an individual with your own needs and preferences. And respecting your boundaries is a clear sign of this respect.
If they always respect your boundaries—even when they don’t fully understand them—it’s a sure sign that they cherish you.
5) They celebrate your achievements
Did you know that one of the biggest predictors of successful relationships is how partners respond to each other’s good news?
It’s true.
When someone truly cherishes you, they’ll be the first to celebrate your victories—no matter how big or small. They’ll share in your joy and be genuinely happy for you.
Because here’s the thing.
They see your success as their success. Your happiness brings them joy. And isn’t that a beautiful thing?
When they cheer you on, when they’re proud of your achievements, it’s not just because they’re being supportive. It’s because they genuinely cherish you and want to see you thrive.
6) They comfort you in your setbacks
Life is a rollercoaster, isn’t it?
One moment you’re on top of the world, and the next, you’re feeling down in the dumps. But when someone cherishes you, they’re there through it all.
They’re there to offer a shoulder to cry on when things go wrong. They’re there to reassure you, to remind you that it’s okay to feel upset, and that a setback doesn’t define your worth.
You see, they understand that we all stumble sometimes. And they want to be there to help you pick up the pieces and move forward.
This kind of empathy and compassion isn’t found everywhere. But when it is, it’s a clear sign that someone truly cherishes you.
So if they’re always there to comfort you during your setbacks, know that their actions are speaking louder than any “I love you” ever could.
7) They make time for you
In today’s busy world, time is the most precious gift anyone can give.
Think about it. When someone chooses to spend their time with you—despite their hectic schedule—it means you’re important to them. It means they value your company, your conversations, your shared moments.
Because at the end of the day, we make time for the people we truly care about. We make time for the people we cherish.
So if they’re always finding ways to be with you, to share experiences with you, it’s not just because they enjoy your company. It’s because they truly cherish you—whether they say “I love you” out loud or not.
Final thoughts
Actions, as they say, speak louder than words.
If the behaviors we’ve discussed resonate with you, consider yourself fortunate. It means there’s someone in your life who truly cherishes you—even if they don’t always say “I love you”.
It’s not always about the grand gestures or passionate declarations. Sometimes, it’s the everyday behaviors—the quiet acts of kindness, the shared moments—that reveal the depth of someone’s feelings.
So take a moment to reflect. Look beyond the words and focus on these actions. You might just discover a love that’s deeper and more profound than you ever realized.
Cherishing someone is about more than just saying “I love you”. It’s about showing it in consistent, tangible ways. And if you’re on the receiving end of these actions, know that you are indeed cherished.
As you navigate your relationships, keep these behaviors in mind. They’re the true measure of affection—the silent “I love you’s” that speak volumes about someone’s feelings for you. And isn’t that a beautiful thing to recognize and cherish?
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