If you stay attached to these 15 things, you won’t move forward in life

Ever feel like you’re running on a treadmill but not actually getting anywhere? That’s what it’s like when we cling onto certain things in life.

It’s like having an invisible backpack full of stuff that weighs us down.

Guess what? It’s time to unpack that backpack and see what’s inside.

Today, we’re going to talk about 11 things that might be holding you back from moving forward.

Trust me, letting go of these could be the game-changer you’ve been looking for.

Let’s dive in and discover what they are. 

1. Dwelling on Past Mistakes

Ever replay a mistake in your head like a bad movie on repeat? We’ve all been there. Holding onto past mistakes is like driving a car while only looking in the rearview mirror.

Sure, it’s important to learn from where we’ve gone wrong, but if you’re always looking back, you’re going to miss what’s right in front of you.

Mistakes are not roadblocks, they’re just part of the journey.

The key? Learn, forgive yourself, and then shift your focus back to the road ahead.

It’s all about moving forward, not staying stuck in what could’ve or should’ve been.

2. Fear of Change

I used to be super scared of change. It was overwhelming and intimidating, almost paralyzing at times, like facing a huge challenge without feeling prepared or confident in my ability to handle it.

But here’s the thing – change is inevitable. Clinging to the ‘good old days’ or the comfort of the familiar might feel safe, but it’s like sitting in a kiddie pool forever.

Embracing change, even if it’s uncomfortable at first, opens you up to new experiences, growth, and opportunities.

3. Worrying About What Others Think

Ever stopped yourself from doing something just because you were worried about what others might think? Been there, done that.

People are too busy with their own lives to ponder over every move you make. In reality, most people are focused on their own activities and concerns, paying much less attention to what others are doing than we might think.

When you free yourself from the fear of judgment, you start to live life on your terms.

It’s like dancing like nobody’s watching – because most of the time, they really aren’t!

4. Chasing Perfection

Aiming for perfection is like trying to catch a cloud – it’s impossible and exhausting. We often get so caught up in making things ‘perfect’ that we miss out on the joy of just doing them.

Remember, it’s okay to make a mess, to have a bad day, or to be less than perfect. Life isn’t a perfectly curated Instagram feed. It’s real, messy, and unpredictable.

Embracing imperfection lets you enjoy the process without being bogged down by unrealistic expectations. 

5. Holding Grudges

I’ve learned this the hard way: holding grudges is like carrying a backpack full of bricks. It’s heavy, tiring, and gets you nowhere.

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or saying what happened was okay. It means you’re choosing to let go of the anger and pain for your own peace of mind.

It’s like setting down that heavy backpack and feeling how much easier it is to move forward.

You don’t forgive the other person; you do it for yourself, to lighten your own load and make your journey through life a bit easier.

6. Sticking to Comfort Zones

Staying in your comfort zone means sticking with what is familiar and easy, which can feel safe, but it also limits your experiences and opportunities for growth

I used to think playing it safe was the way to go until I realized I was missing out on a lot of cool stuff.

Trying new things can be scary, but it’s also where you grow and learn the most.

Sure, there’s a chance you won’t like it, but you’ll never know until you try. 

7. Overthinking

Ever caught yourself stuck in a loop of ‘what ifs’ and worst-case scenarios? That’s overthinking.

The truth is, most of the things we worry about never happen. Overthinking drains your energy and keeps you from taking action.

Learning to recognize when you’re overthinking and then taking a step back can be a game changer. Sometimes, it’s about taking a deep breath and just going for it, rather than getting lost in endless thoughts.

8. Waiting for the ‘Right’ Moment

I’ve been guilty of this one. Waiting for the ‘perfect’ time to start something is like waiting for a bus that never comes. I used to wait for the right moment to start projects, only to realize that the ‘right’ moment is often now.

Life is unpredictable, and waiting for everything to line up perfectly is a surefire way to never get started.

It’s like wanting to take a swim but waiting for the water to be just the right temperature. Sometimes, you just have to dive in and adjust as you go along.

9. Ignoring Your Health

Neglecting your health can be detrimental in the long run. At first, it might not seem like a big deal, but over time, it can cause bigger problems.

I learned this the hard way. Eating junk food, skipping exercise, or not getting enough sleep might not feel bad right now, but it catches up with you.

Treating your body right is not just about looking good, it’s about feeling good and being able to do all the things you love.

10. Neglecting Personal Growth

Personal growth is key to moving forward in life. It’s not just about career success; it’s about becoming a better, wiser, and more fulfilled person.

I realized that when I stopped learning and growing, I felt stuck.

Reading books, learning new skills, or even just reflecting on your experiences helps you evolve.

It’s like watering a plant – it needs a bit of attention to grow and thrive.

11. Not Living Your Own Life

Living your life based on others’ expectations or society’s standards results in never being truly happy. 

It’s uncomfortable and it’s not you. I’ve been down that road, trying to please everyone, only to realize I wasn’t being true to myself.

Your life is yours alone. Making choices based on what makes you happy, not what you think you should do, is crucial.

It’s not about being selfish, it’s about being authentic. When you live your life according to standards that are 100% ‘you’ – the comfort and confidence it brings are incomparable.

12. Living Up To Others’ Standards

Trying to meet unrealistic standards set by others, whether it’s family, friends, or society, will only lead to frustration.

You’ll run yourself ragged attempting perfection, only to end up depleted and unfulfilled.

Give yourself permission to let go of expectations that don’t resonate with who you really are.

Listen to your inner wisdom and set standards aligned with your values.

13. People Pleasing

Saying “yes” when you mean “no” out of a desire to please others or avoid conflict hinders your ability to make choices that honor your needs.

While considering others is admirable, losing yourself in the process helps no one.

Rediscover your voice by checking in with what feels right for you before automatically saying yes.

You can care for others without compromising your well-being.

14. Comparing Yourself

It’s tempting to measure your success and worth against others, but comparison only fuels self-judgment.

Your journey is unique, so avoid judging your insides by someone else’s outsides.

Instead, shift the focus to appreciating your own progress, abilities, and life experiences. There’s no one quite like you, so why try to be anyone else?

15. Hiding Your True Self

Presenting a filtered version of yourself in order to gain approval or fit in will leave you feeling phony and restless.

Although revealing your true colors can feel risky, you attract people who appreciate the real you.

Let the right people into your world by daring to let your freak flag fly. The connections gained by being genuine are the sweetest.

Moving Forward Mindfully

As we let go of what holds us back, mindfulness can guide us towards more conscious, values-based living. Yet mindfulness alone won’t ensure we move forward ethically or consider others.

The Vessel co-creator Justin Brown dives deeper into this risk in his video “Why Mindfulness Meditation Can Make You More Selfish.” As he explains, meditation simply strengthens our existing patterns and priorities. So without an ethical framework, it can even increase self-centeredness for some.

Justin advocates defining your core values first, then utilizing mindfulness as a tool to live by those values. This prevents assuming meditation alone will make you a better, more enlightened person. First, be clear on your life’s purpose outside of mindfulness. Figure out who you aspire to be and what principles you want to stand by.

If developing an ethical, connected mindfulness practice sounds appealing as part of your journey forward, watch Justin deconstruct common myths around meditation in his video here:

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Let Justin’s framework guide your growth mindfully without losing your humanity along the way.

Feeling Lost in Life? This Masterclass Reveals Your True Calling

Do you ever wonder about your deeper purpose and meaning? Question if you’re fulfilling your true potential?

It’s easy to feel directionless, going through the motions each day without knowing why. Unsure of what you were put on this earth to do.

But everyone has a unique purpose and special talents to offer the world. The trick is uncovering what they are.

That’s why Justin Brown made this game-changing masterclass exposing common myths around finding your calling.

In this video training, you’ll discover:

  • Why visualization and meditation often fail to reveal your purpose
  • How to skip imagined futures and connect with your purpose here and now
  • Why toxic positivity hinders self-development
  • A simple but powerful exercise to pinpoint what you were born to do

With this radically different approach, your true calling will finally come into focus.

Stop wandering aimlessly without purpose and embrace your full potential.

Watch the masterclass to uncover your gifts and know the difference you’re here to make.


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