If you feel like you’re underachieving in life, say goodbye to these 6 habits

Life can feel like a tough climb, and sometimes, it seems like everyone else is moving ahead while we’re stuck in the same spot.

This feeling can be heavy, making us believe we’re not doing well enough.

But, before you let this feeling sit in your heart, it’s good to stop and think. Could it be that some of our daily habits are slowing us down?

Our habits play a big part in how our lives turn out. The little things we do every day might not seem like much, but they add up and shape our story.

In this article, we will talk about six habits that could be holding you back without you even knowing it.

Letting go of these habits might be the key to moving past feeling stuck and starting to make progress in life. 

Habit #1: Procrastination

We all have things we want or need to do, but sometimes, it’s just easier to say, “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

This habit of putting things off is called procrastination, and it’s a big dream stealer. When we procrastinate, we delay our goals and the satisfaction that comes with achieving them.

The problem is, tomorrow has a funny way of turning into next week, next month, or even next year. And before we know it, time has flown by, and we haven’t moved an inch closer to our dreams.

The first step to beat procrastination is to recognize it. Next time you find yourself delaying something important, stop and think: why am I doing this? Is it because the task is hard or boring? Or am I afraid of something?

Taking small steps towards completing the task, instead of delaying it, can help you get started. And remember, it’s okay to ask for help or use tools and tricks to make the task easier.

Saying goodbye to procrastination means saying hello to action. And action is what will move us forward in life, closer to our goals and dreams.

Habit #2: Negative Self-talk

We all have a little voice inside our heads. Sometimes, it’s like a cheerleader, encouraging us to go for it. But other times, it can be our own worst critic, telling us we’re not good enough or that we’re bound to fail.

This negative self-talk can be a major roadblock on our path to success.

I remember a time when I was about to give a presentation. The room was buzzing with chatter, but in my head, a storm of negative thoughts was brewing. “What if they find it boring? What if I forget my words?” I was drowning in self-doubt before I even began.

But then, a friend gave me a pep talk, helping to drown out the negative chatter in my head with words of encouragement. The presentation went well, and I learned a valuable lesson about the power of positive thinking.

Negative self-talk not only steals our confidence but it also blurs our vision, making it hard to see the steps we need to take to reach our goals. Replacing that negative chatter with positive, encouraging words can make a big difference.

Start by catching yourself when you’re being too hard on yourself. Would you talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself? Treat yourself with kindness, encourage yourself, and remember, everyone has their own unique path. Embrace yours with a positive mindset, and you’ll be better equipped to tackle the challenges that come your way.

Habit #3: Fear of Failure

Life isn’t always smooth sailing. Sometimes, we might stumble and fall, but it’s the fear of this fall that keeps many of us stuck. We’re scared to take chances because we think we’ll fail. This fear of failure can freeze us in our tracks, keeping us from trying new things or chasing our dreams.

Failure is a part of life. Not everything will go as planned, and that’s okay. What’s not okay is letting the fear of failure dictate our actions. When we’re too afraid to try, we already lose. We miss out on opportunities, learning experiences, and the chance to grow.

It’s natural to fear failure. Nobody enjoys falling flat on their face. But every time we fall, we learn something new, we become a bit stronger, and we get a bit closer to succeeding next time.

Remember, every person you look up to, every successful individual you admire, has faced failure at some point. But they didn’t let the fear of failure keep them down. They picked themselves up, learned from their mistakes, and kept going.

So, if fear of failure is holding you back, it’s time to face it head-on. Take small risks, learn from any setbacks, and keep moving forward. Over time, you’ll find that fear loses its grip, and you’ll gain the confidence to chase after your dreams, no matter the hurdles along the way.

Habit #4: Over-Planning

Planning is good. It helps us get organized, set goals, and figure out the steps to reach them. But there’s a sneaky side to planning that can hold us back: over-planning.

When we spend too much time planning every tiny detail, we might end up stuck in a never-ending planning loop. We become more focused on having a perfect plan rather than actually taking action.

Sometimes, a rough plan with a clear goal is all we need to get moving. Life is unpredictable and no matter how much we plan, there will always be surprises along the way.

Over-planning can be a way of trying to control the uncontrollable, and in the process, we delay taking real steps towards our goals.

Instead of trying to plan for every possible scenario, focus on creating a basic roadmap. Identify your goal, figure out the key steps to get there, and then start taking action. It’s through taking action, learning, and adjusting our plans based on real-world feedback that we make progress.

In a way, over-planning is a fancy form of procrastination. It gives us the illusion of progress while keeping us safely in our comfort zone.

By breaking free from the planning trap and embracing action, even if it’s imperfect, we open the door to real progress and the chance to learn and improve as we go.

Habit #5: Comparing Yourself to Others

It’s a natural instinct to look around and see how others are doing. However, falling into the comparison trap can really drag us down. When we constantly measure our progress against others, we set ourselves up for disappointment and frustration.

Everyone has their own journey, with unique experiences and timelines. What seems like an overnight success for someone else could be the result of years of hard work behind the scenes.

Comparing ourselves to others can blind us to our own progress and achievements. It can make our steps feel small and insignificant when in reality, they are big leaps towards our personal goals.

Instead of looking sideways to see where others are, it’s more beneficial to look ahead to where you want to go, and look back to see how far you’ve come.

Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Learn from others, be inspired by their journeys, but remember to run your own race at your own pace.

Breaking free from the comparison trap allows you to focus on what truly matters – your own path, your own growth, and your own happiness.

By shifting the focus back to your own journey, you’ll find a sense of satisfaction and motivation that fuels your drive to reach your goals.

Habit #6: Ignoring Self-Care

We often hear the phrase, “hard work pays off,” and while that’s true, working hard at the cost of our health and well-being is a bad bargain.

Ignoring self-care is a habit many of us fall into, especially when we’re chasing big goals. We might think that we need to push ourselves to the limit to achieve success, but this could lead to burnout, which in the long run, slows us down.

I recall a time when I was juggling multiple projects. The days blurred into nights, and my health started to take a hit. I thought I was on the fast track to achieving my goals, but what I didn’t realize was that I was running on empty. It took a bad cold and a forced break to make me see that without taking care of myself, I couldn’t give my best to anything.

Self-care isn’t about spa days or luxury retreats, although those are nice too. It’s about the simple things – getting enough sleep, eating nutritious meals, taking breaks, and making time for things you enjoy. It’s about listening to your body and giving it the care it needs.

By making self-care a priority, you not only enhance your well-being but also recharge your energy, making you more effective and focused on your journey towards your goals.

It might seem slow, but in reality, taking care of yourself speeds up your progress as it equips you with the right energy and mindset to tackle challenges and seize opportunities.

So, as you say goodbye to these self-sabotaging habits, remember to say hello to self-care, and watch how it transforms not just your journey, but your life.


We all have the potential to do amazing things in our lives, but sometimes, our own habits can hold us back. It’s like having a super fast car but driving with the handbrake on.

Letting go of these six habits we talked about is like releasing that handbrake and allowing ourselves to speed towards our goals.

We discussed procrastination, negative self-talk, fear of failure, over-planning, comparing ourselves to others, and ignoring self-care.

Saying goodbye to these habits won’t happen overnight, but with awareness and small steps, we can start making positive changes.

Remember, the journey towards achieving more in life begins with understanding ourselves better and making the choice to grow every day.

So, as you step into a new day, embrace the opportunity to let go of what’s holding you back and invite in habits that will propel you forward.

You have the power to transform your life, one habit at a time. So why wait? Start today, and see how your life changes for the better.




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