If you display these 8 behaviors, you’re starting to value yourself

We all want to feel valued, to love ourselves the way we love other people.

But the question is, do we, really?

Often, it’s hard to tell. You do your best every day, try to improve and grow, but sometimes, it just doesn’t feel enough.

Sound familiar? It’s okay—you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with self-worth, and sometimes it can be truly difficult to love ourselves.

But guess what? You might actually be starting to value yourself more than you think, even if you don’t see it right away.

And today, I’m going to share some of these behaviors that indicate you’re starting to value yourself more.

But before we dive in, remember, I’m not here to tell you how you should feel about yourself. If you’re not feeling the self-love, that’s okay—I’m here to help you find your way there.

So let’s peel back the layers and discover if you’re showing these signs of valuing yourself more.

Let’s begin!

1) You’re setting boundaries

You see, I used to be a people-pleaser, always bending over backwards to accommodate everyone else’s needs but my own.

But then, things changed.

I started saying no when I didn’t have the capacity to help. I began protecting my time and energy, not letting others drain it without thought.

And you know what? It felt empowering.

You should try it, too! And if you’re already doing setting healthy boundaries, know that it’s a clear sign that you’re starting to value yourself. It shows that you understand your worth and won’t let others take advantage of it.

2) You’re taking care of your physical health

I remember when I would just grab a fast-food burger for lunch or skip meals altogether because I was too busy working. My physical health was on the back burner, somewhere down my list of priorities. 

But as I started to value myself more, I realized that my body deserved better. So, I started making healthier food choices, incorporating exercise into my routine, and ensuring I got enough sleep each night.

Taking care of your physical health is not just about looking good, it’s about respecting and valuing your body. It’s a clear sign that you’re starting to value yourself more.

After all, as they say, your body is a temple; treat it as such.

3) You’re investing in personal growth

Did you know that in 22, the personal development industry was estimated to be worth 43.77 billion dollars? That’s a hefty amount!

What this shows us is that people are willing to invest heavily in themselves. Learning new skills, attending workshops, reading self-help books, or seeking professional guidance all point towards valuing oneself.

And when you start focusing on your personal growth, you’re essentially acknowledging your potential and making an active effort to reach it.

4) You’re forgiving yourself for past mistakes

We’ve all been there—a mistake made, a path not taken, a word said in haste. These things have a way of lingering in our minds, sometimes causing us to beat ourselves up over them.

But here’s the thing: When you start to truly value yourself, you recognize that mistakes aren’t failures but opportunities to learn and grow. You begin to understand that you are human, and it’s okay to make mistakes.

Forgiving yourself for these past mistakes is an act of kindness towards yourself. It’s about accepting and loving yourself, flaws and all. 

5) You’re celebrating your achievements

I used to downplay my achievements, no matter how big or small. I’d brush them off as nothing special, or believe I just got lucky.

But then, a friend told me something that changed my perspective.

She said, “When you celebrate your achievements, you’re not boasting. You’re acknowledging your hard work and determination.”

That hit home. It was exactly what I needed to hear to begin celebrating my wins, from finishing a difficult project to even getting up early for a workout.

When you start to celebrate your achievements, it means you’re finally recognizing your own efforts and giving yourself the credit you deserve.

And let me tell you, it feels pretty great.

6) You’re not comparing yourself to others

It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap in our digitally connected world.

I know, because there was a time when I’d scroll through social media and compare my life to the highlight reels of others. 

But everyone’s journey is unique. Comparing myself to others was doing nothing but robbing me of joy and self-worth.

So stop comparing yourself to others. Instead, focus on your own progress. It’s only when you learn this that you will finally start to see your own value. 

7) You’re asking for what you need

I used to shy away from asking for what I needed, whether it was help at work or support from a friend. I didn’t want to bother anyone or seem needy.

But over time, I realized that advocating for my needs was not a sign of weakness but of strength. It showed that I valued myself enough to ensure that my needs were met.

When you start asking for what you need, it shows that you’re starting to value yourself more. It signals that you respect your own needs and are not afraid to express them.

8) You’re embracing self-love

Embracing self-love is one of the most profound signs that you’re starting to value yourself. It’s about treating yourself with kindness, patience, and respect—the same way you’d treat someone you care deeply about.

For me, embracing self-love meant learning to accept myself as I am, with all my strengths and flaws. It meant stopping the negative self-talk and replacing it with compassion and understanding.

And I hope this article helps you learn how to do that, too. 

Final thoughts

In conclusion, valuing yourself is all about making small changes every day that add up over time.

So if you see these behaviors in your life, give yourself a pat on the back! It means you’re on the right track to valuing yourself more.

And remember, you are worthy of all the love and respect you give to others, so don’t ever think it’s wrong to love yourself more each day.

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