If someone displays these 9 behaviors, you’re dealing with a low-key narcissist

Recognizing a narcissist isn’t always a walk in the park. It’s not just about the big egos and the grandiose self-image. Low-key narcissists are equally as tricky, and often even more so because their behaviors can be much more subtle.

The key to spotting them? Knowing the telltale signs. If you’re clued in to these specific behaviors, you’ll be better equipped to identify if you’re dealing with a low-key narcissist.

Let me share with you nine behaviors that could suggest you’re dealing with a low-key narcissist. Read on, it might just save you a lot of unnecessary drama and heartache.

1) They’re subtly dismissive

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who subtly makes you feel insignificant? It’s like your opinions, feelings or experiences don’t quite measure up to theirs.

Well, that’s a classic sign of a low-key narcissist.

They might not outright belittle or undermine you like a more overt narcissist would. Instead, they might dismiss your ideas as unimportant or trivialize your feelings. They might even give you that condescending “Oh, that’s cute” kind of response.

They’re experts in making sure their thoughts and opinions take center stage and yours are pushed to the background.

If someone often makes you feel small or less important, it might be worth taking a closer look at their behavior.

2) They turn every conversation back to themselves

I remember having a friend who had this knack of turning every conversation back to herself. Let’s call her Jane.

One time, I was telling Jane about a promotion I’d received at work. I was excited and wanted to share my happiness. But within minutes, the conversation had shifted to her and how she was overlooked for a promotion at her job.

It wasn’t just this one instance. Every conversation seemed to revolve around her. Over time, this pattern started to feel draining and one-sided.

That’s when I realized this is a classic behavior of a low-key narcissist. They subtly steer the conversations back towards them, making themselves the center of attention.

So if you notice someone consistently turning the focus back to them, you might be dealing with a low-key narcissist.

3) They’re notorious name-droppers

Low-key narcissists love to associate themselves with high-status people or achievements, even if the connection is tenuous at best. This behavior is called name-dropping.

Psychologists suggest that narcissists name-drop as a way to elevate their own status and importance. By aligning themselves with “successful” people, they’re trying to prove that they too are successful and noteworthy.

If someone is constantly mentioning their connections to high-profile individuals or bragging about their ties to prestigious institutions, you might be dealing with a low-key narcissist.

4) They’re always the victim

Have you ever noticed that some people always seem to be the victim? No matter what happens, they’re never at fault and it’s always someone else who’s to blame.

This is another common trait of a low-key narcissist. They often portray themselves as the victim in any situation as a way to gain sympathy and attention, and to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

If you’re dealing with someone who never takes accountability for their mistakes and always plays the victim, you might just be dealing with a low-key narcissist.

5) They rarely show genuine empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s a trait that’s often lacking in narcissists.

Low-key narcissists might be good at feigning concern or interest, but when it comes down to truly understanding your feelings or showing genuine empathy, they often fall short.

They might brush off your concerns, change the subject, or even belittle your feelings.

So if you find that someone consistently lacks empathy or struggles to show genuine concern for others, you may be dealing with a low-key narcissist.

6) They disregard boundaries

In any relationship, respect for personal boundaries is key. But for a low-key narcissist, these boundaries often blur.

They may invade your personal space, dismiss your feelings, or make demands on your time without considering your needs. It’s as if they believe the world revolves around them and everyone else should accommodate their desires.

This lack of respect for boundaries isn’t just hurtful – it can be emotionally draining.

If someone in your life continuously crosses the line despite your attempts to set boundaries, you might be dealing with a low-key narcissist.

7) They make you doubt yourself

I used to have a colleague who, for some reason, always left me feeling unsure of myself. At first, I couldn’t put my finger on why.

Then I realized that every time I shared an idea or took on a project, this colleague would subtly question my decisions or cast doubt on my capabilities. It was as if he was trying to undermine my confidence.

This is a common tactic used by low-key narcissists. They sow seeds of doubt to make you question your worth, which in turn, boosts their own sense of superiority.

If someone consistently makes you question your abilities or worth, it might be a sign that you’re dealing with a low-key narcissist.

8) They have a grandiose sense of self

While it might be more subtle than their overt counterparts, low-key narcissists also have a heightened sense of self-importance.

They often believe they are special or superior to others, even if there’s no real reason for them to think so. This grandiosity can manifest itself in various ways such as believing they deserve special treatment, seeing themselves as extremely talented, or thinking they can only be understood by other ‘special’ people.

So if you encounter someone with an inflated sense of self-worth that just doesn’t match up with reality, you might be dealing with a low-key narcissist.

9) They are entitled

This is perhaps one of the most telling signs of a low-key narcissist: a strong sense of entitlement.

They often believe they deserve more than others, that rules don’t apply to them, or that they should always be the priority. This sense of entitlement can lead to unreasonable demands and expectations placed on those around them.

If you notice someone exhibiting a consistent pattern of entitlement, you’re likely dealing with a low-key narcissist.

Final thoughts: It’s not about blame

Understanding the behaviors of a low-key narcissist isn’t about labeling or blaming.

It’s about equipping ourselves with the knowledge to better navigate our relationships. It’s about setting boundaries and protecting our mental and emotional well-being.

Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your own peace and happiness. Recognizing these behaviors might be the first step in doing just that.

Research suggests that narcissistic personality traits could be rooted in a person’s upbringing or early life experiences. It might not be something they consciously choose.

So, while it’s important to protect yourself, it’s also key to approach this understanding with empathy and compassion.

After all, we’re all human, shaped by a myriad of experiences and circumstances. Understanding these nuances can lead to healthier interactions and relationships in our lives.

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