If a man displays these 7 subtle behaviors, he’s genuinely committed to you

Commitment is a tricky subject to navigate.

It’s often shrouded in mystery, with subtle signs and behaviors that are difficult to decipher.

However, over time, I’ve come to realize that men who are truly committed have certain subtle behaviors they display. These behaviors, although often overlooked, are the most genuine indicators of their commitment.

Here’s my take on it: If a man displays these 7 subtle behaviors, he’s genuinely committed to you. Let’s dive straight in.

1) He includes you in his future

When a man is genuinely committed, he has a way of including you in his future plans. It’s not just about the next weekend getaway, but about long-term goals and dreams.

This doesn’t mean he’s planning your wedding on the second date. Rather, it’s about his willingness to discuss his vision for the future and how you fit into that. He talks about future adventures, career aspirations, and personal growth in a way that implicitly suggests your involvement.

In contrast to simply thinking about a future together, this man is taking active steps towards building a shared future with you. He’s not just holding onto a dream; he’s taking the actions to make it a reality in his life.

Why is this so significant? Because it demonstrates that he doesn’t just see you as a part of his present but also as an integral part of his future. This is one of the most genuine signs of commitment.

If he’s speaking of the future and you’re a part of it, he’s genuinely committed to you.

2) He actively communicates

In my experience, a man who is genuinely committed doesn’t just communicate—he actively communicates. This means he doesn’t just respond to your texts or calls but initiates conversations. He shares his thoughts, feelings, hopes, and fears with you, creating an open line of communication.

This kind of active communication shows a level of emotional intimacy that goes beyond casual or superficial connections. It indicates a deep level of trust and openness, which are foundational aspects of a committed relationship.

He won’t shy away from difficult conversations either. Rather than avoiding conflict, he’s willing to work through disagreements and misunderstandings with patience and respect.

In the words of Rumi, “In silence there is eloquence. Stop weaving and watch how the pattern improves.” It’s in the silence of his actions – his consistent effort to maintain open lines of communication – that his commitment truly shines through.

3) He encourages your personal growth

A committed man not only supports you in your journey, but he also actively encourages your personal growth. He understands that the health of your relationship is directly linked to the health of your individual selves.

This understanding is at the core of a transformative masterclass I helped produce called “The Art of Love and Intimacy” with shaman Rudá Iandê. The insights from this masterclass can profoundly impact your perception of relationships, mirroring how a committed man would approach your growth.

The masterclass emphasizes that our external relationships reflect our internal relationship with ourselves. By recognizing this, we can take proactive steps to improve both our internal and external connections, much like a committed partner would. Check it out here.

A genuinely committed man aligns with these teachings, knowing that to enhance the relationship, both parties need to evolve independently. He’ll support you in breaking free from limiting beliefs and toxic cycles, just as the masterclass aims to do.

So, if he’s encouraging your personal growth and helping you become a better version of yourself, there’s a good chance he’s genuinely committed to you. I invite you to explore these themes further in the masterclass.

4) He’s honest about his imperfections

A man who’s genuinely committed to you won’t pretend to be perfect. Instead, he’ll be open about his imperfections and shortcomings. Why? Because he understands that authenticity is key in a committed relationship.

Being raw and honest about our flaws can be challenging. We’re often taught to hide our weaknesses and project an image of perfection. But in a truly committed relationship, it’s essential to show up as we truly are, warts and all.

This level of honesty also ties back to personal growth. By acknowledging our imperfections, we open up opportunities for growth and self-improvement. A man who’s genuinely committed understands this and is not afraid to be vulnerable with you.

Now, ask yourself: Is he honest with you about his flaws and does he work on them?

5) He respects your independence

In a truly committed relationship, a man understands the importance of respecting your independence. This might seem counterproductive to the idea of togetherness, but in reality, it’s a fundamental aspect of a healthy and committed partnership.

He recognizes that you are your own person, with unique dreams, passions, and pursuits. Instead of trying to control or limit you, he encourages you to maintain your individuality. He appreciates your uniqueness and doesn’t try to mold you into someone else.

This respect for independence aligns with the belief in personal freedom and authenticity. A genuinely committed man not only acknowledges your individuality but celebrates it. He understands that the strength of a relationship lies in the freedom of its individuals.

6) He values your opinions

A committed man doesn’t just listen to your opinions; he genuinely values them. He understands that you bring a unique perspective to the table and respects your thoughts and ideas, even when they differ from his own.

In conversations, he doesn’t dominate or dismiss but engages in a respectful exchange of ideas. He’s not afraid of disagreements and sees them as opportunities to learn more about you and grow as a couple.

This behavior aligns with the belief in the fundamental dignity and worth of every individual. By valuing your opinions, he’s not just showing respect for you as his partner but also recognizing your inherent worth as an individual.

7) He shows up for you

When a man is genuinely committed, he consistently shows up for you – both in times of joy and in times of struggle. He doesn’t just celebrate the highs with you; he also supports you during the lows.

Being present during difficult times isn’t always easy, but it’s in these moments that genuine commitment shines through. He understands that life isn’t just about the sunny days but also about navigating the storms together.

This behavior reflects a belief in the transformative power of self-awareness and personal growth. By showing up for you, he’s not just demonstrating his commitment but also his willingness to grow with you through every challenge that life presents.

Embracing genuine commitment

In this article, we’ve delved into the subtle behaviors that a man displays when he’s genuinely committed to you. We’ve found that it’s not about grand gestures or flamboyant declarations, but rather about respecting your independence, valuing your opinions, and showing up for you consistently.

These behaviors reflect a belief in the dignity and worth of every individual, the transformative power of self-awareness and personal growth, and the profound importance of authentic relationships. Understanding these behaviors can empower us to foster deeper, more meaningful connections.

For those ready to explore these principles further and apply them to their relationships, I highly recommend the free “The Art of Love and Intimacy” masterclass with Rudá Iandê. This masterclass will guide you towards dismantling the myth of the perfect partner and embracing your present circumstances to significantly enhance your relationships.

Let this be your guide as you navigate your relationships. And bear in mind, a truly committed man is not just present; he’s actively engaged in building a genuine connection with you. I invite you to explore these themes further in the masterclass.