BY DANIA AZIZ
I used to push people away in my relationships because of childhood abandonment fears, and if you're doing the same, it might be due to unresolved past issues.
As the oldest of four siblings, I chased love and approval from my family, leading to a persistent belief of inadequacy that now influences my self-esteem, relationships, and work life, making me realize the impact of my past on my present fears of rejection and not being enough.
Emotional dysregulation, which can cause strong reactions to small triggers in adulthood, often stems from childhood neglect or abuse, making it important to reflect on your upbringing to find emotional balance.
Holding onto a grudge from the past, whether due to a childhood friend's betrayal or a parent's absence, doesn't signify weakness; rather, it reflects ongoing pain that hasn't fully healed, and it's important to recognize that healing takes time.
I used to constantly say 'yes' to please others and be liked, stemming from childhood feelings of inadequacy, but I've now embarked on a journey to separate my self-worth from seeking approval through people-pleasing.
Learning to set boundaries, crucial for protecting our well-being in relationships, can be challenging, often rooted in childhood fears of rejection and the need for acceptance, shaping our behavior and self-perception as adults.
Unexplained guilt can infiltrate your life, stemming from childhood experiences where expressing needs or feelings led to blame, shaping your adult emotions and behavior.